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I am a 25-year-old virgin, and have decided to have sex. However, whenever my partner tries to penetrate, I feel so much pain. We have tried about 20 times, and still have not succeeded. I need help please!

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Hi, I am a 25 years old virgin, I have decided to have sex. However, whenever my partner tries to penetrate, I feel so much pain which I can’t withstand. We have tried to break through for about 20 times, and still have no succeeded. I need help please!.

It is important to note that everyone’s first time is different and that it may take several attempts for it to become an enjoyable experience for you.  But if you have made 20 attempts, it may be worth trying some new things to improve your experience. First, it is important for you to learn your own anatomy, so that you know what brings you pleasure.  This may include masturbation, use of sex toys, and even noting pleasurable positions.  Once you figure out what you like, don’t be afraid to tell your partner!  They will appreciate verbal affirmations that what they are doing feels good to you.  Increasing vaginal lubrication also may help with relaxation of vagina muscles, and ease discomfort related to penetration.  You can buy lubricant, spend extra time of foreplay, try clitoral stimulation, or use a vibrator during penetration to ease relaxation.  If you are feeling uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to let your partner know you want to change positions, slow down, or stop.  

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